To expound and propogate concepts is simple, to drop all concepts is difficult and rare. A quiet mind is all you need. All else will happen rightly, once your mind is quiet.
Depression is the result of overly living in my head, in the mind. It is a disease that results from the mind being the only instrument of managing, living and loving life.
Relationships that are only mental ones, that only live in our heads, will be conditional, for our respective thoughts, opinions, judgements, aversions and adversions will change over time – and if the only basis for the relationship is alignment of those elements, then we are exposed to having nothing but conditional relationships.
If our relationships are based on harmony of mind, body and spirit, then we can see the commonalities that we both share. The air we both need for breath. The heat we both need for comfort. The light we both need for awareness. The foods we both need for life. The spirit, ki, we both need for existence. The basic needs we both experience that influences our choices. The ignorance and insecurities we all struggle to accept. The ambitions and desires we each strive to mitigate. In such a relationship, the link is deeper, and the dependence is less on harmony of mental secretions, and on spiritual harmony – love that is because you and I share life, pure and simple.
Love without an object – that object being the others or the context’s thoughts, desires, judgements, aversions, adversions, body shape or colour, other sensory emissions, actions, words spoken or written, or any other secretions that another can elicit.
Love without an object does not depend on any of my emotions triggered by any of the above – my response, irrespective of the sensations triggered in me, remains calmness, stillness, acceptance, openness, genuine and deep curiosity, needlessness to change ANY aspect the moment – and love.
Love that is fully taking, and fully giving to the moment, and to the context, items and people who make the moment.
Such love does not live nor can exist in the mind.
It exists when harmony of mind, body and spirit are one.
That harmony is, like the body, susceptible to disease and harm from the world which surrounds us.
Aikido, not the physical or mechanical form, but the deeper, spiritual and integral aikido, immunizes us, and maintains the harmony.
Aikido, maybe is not love, but is the prescription for love.